Cybersexting requires only a little bit of romancing. First you act like you really like the other person, and shower her (him) with compliments and even - yes - poetry. (Homemade poetry is best, even a mere jingle or two.) Then you shyly admit that even though you have never done it before, you have fallen so madly in love with the cyber person you have not even met, that you are coming out of the closet to say you would like to try cybersexting, or just plain cybering, as some people say. Vous es dis en English? Very simply it means texting very raunchy texts back and forth until one (or both) correspondents (pretend to, or actually do) reach orgasm. If you are lucky you might get to see a picture - or even a video! - of your newly-found beloved. If not, then the good old King's language, first spoken in the U.S. of A. by the earliest Puritans, will have to suffice.
Now, who does it and why? My guess would be that the lonely, the bereaved and the heartbroken who desperately need company in order to get through the night (or day) would cyber a lot. But then I find out that even people whose spouses are sitting in the very next room keep cybering because it has become an addiction. Yes an addiction, whose newly-coined, complicated name will no doubt find its way into the next edition of the DSM. Support groups are arising, specially trained therapists are popping up here and there. Seems like everyone's doin' it, maybe even the Hugh Hefners, who are supposedly tired of nude models.
Finally the consequences. If you are a hardened (count the puns) cybersexter, sexting is probably part of a normal day on earth : just a little (maybe even a boring) good-night kiss - or hug. If you are a new sexter, watch out. You might find yourself ashamed, humiliated (for sure), disgusted the next day. You may even feel insulted, betrayed, forlorn and in need of some F. Sinatra songs to get you through the next week or so. Or you might continue to indulge and become a frequent sexter yourself. Who knows what lurks in the human spirit (?) and/or psyche?
So - troll the internet all you want, or just be a part-timer. Bore yourself to sexual death, or ignite the flame and douse the loneliness every now and then. Either way, you are bound to hurt someone (or be hurt) somewhere along the way. Listen to your heart (unless the silence has taken it away): you will most likely hurt or be hurt somewhere along the cybersexters' paths.